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i'm fascinated when a young person is told that s/he/ze is 'too selfish.'

of course,

there are bounds and contexts and exceptions and severities to consider.

but it boggles my mind to think that one who's only just come into some sort of sphere of self awareness and ability to exercise said awareness and expression of self in a preferred environment

would be anything less than selfish.

free from being watched, observed, taken care of,

freed from immediate expectation.

having finished biding her/his/hir time,

why should one be expected to, at all times, be less than even a bit selfish?

without self interest and temporary selfishness,

the growth to appreciate what selflessness could mean wouldn't have the space to occur.

and then that selflessness, or the attitude thereof, whether occasional or not,

would be a meaningless happenstance. unappreciated.